Updated: Feb 10, 2020
Business moves at breakneck speed. It’s a constant whirl leaving a lot of us desperately trying to keep up. Most businesses suffer from moving too fast with not enough planning or depth of conversation. As a result, there’s a lot of missed communication, expectations not met (or even explicitly said), frustration, and targets missed.
This is now the norm in Corporate America to small startups alike.
We are rushing through the building and growing of businesses without bothering to create a solid foundation. It’s no wonder that over 70% of employees are avoiding difficult conversations with their boss, colleagues or direct reports.
Unless there is great leadership throughout the organization, this has all the makings for a toxic work environment, and toxic workplaces are an epidemic.
If you haven’t worked in one, you most likely know someone that has.
We cannot continue to do business-as-usual when the usual is making us sick and killing us!
Statistically, it’s highly likely you’ve been avoiding having a Crunchy Conversation. Check out my previous blog post on Overcoming the Top 5 Excuses for Avoiding Difficult Conversations.
Because it’s so ingrained in our culture to avoid having deeper conversations that produce real results, it may be hard to know when it’s time to take action. To help you out, I’ve compiled the Top 5 Signs That It's Time To Have That Difficult Conversation.
#1. Your Body Is Telling You Something:
Have you ever thought about someone on your team and felt a pit in your stomach? You might also notice signs like your throat closing up or your chest tighten.
Your body is sending you warning signs that something isn’t right. You know that old saying “trust your gut”? Well, there’s something to that. If you continue to avoid having the conversation, not only will things get worse in the workplace, you also risk getting seriously ill.
#2 You Tend To Avoid, Avoid, Avoid:
Have you found yourself avoiding someone on your team? Maybe you take a different route to avoid their desk or walk by when they are in a meeting or out to lunch? Yep, that’s a tell tale sign that it’s time to have the crunchy conversation.
#3 Heightened Emotions:
Do you find yourself getting annoyed, frustrated or straight out angry at someone specific?
#4 You're Complaining or Gossiping:
Have you noticed that you are complaining about someone rather than talking to them about it? Have you been gossiping about how terrible they’ve been to your peers or confidants?
#5 You've Lost Sleep:
If your peaceful slumber is being interrupted by thinking about a conflict you’ve been having at work, it’s definitely time to take action. Getting enough sleep is essential for us to operate at our peak performance. Leaders particularly need to ensure they get enough rest to be their best for their teams.
If you’ve been experiencing any of these symptoms or a combination of them, it’s definitely time to do something about it. Having a successful difficult conversation takes dedication. It isn’t easy nor simple. But it’s certainly worth learning how to do well.
Download my Crunchy Conversations Toolkit to get a better understanding of what you can do to prepare yourself for having a difficult conversation. The confidence and relief are in the preparation and in the details, and the Toolkit will help you tremendously (and it's my FREE gift to you)!
In Service To Your Greatness,
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